The greatest advice I can ever give my daughter is “to be persistent…”

And here is why …

As a woman, I’ve learned that when searching for a soulmate, there will be heartaches and disappointments along the way, so much so, that I felt like giving up on love all together, (or settling for what felt close enough)…but in the depths of my despair I dreamt of what could be, and I persisted…

And when the time came for my womb to be filled with the gift of life once more, we had a pregnancy that never lead to labor and delivery, in these moments of deep sorrow and sadness, still, I persisted…

And after becoming a wife and a mother, I felt that I had a Master Degree that was just collecting dust, because since I don’t “need” to work, how selfish would that be of me to still continue to chase my career goals & ambitions? But even still, in the midst of these feelings of guilt and uncertainty, I persisted…

Because of persistence, I gave love another chance and met the love of my life. And for the first time ever, I felt like an equal, I felt like he was bringing out the best in me just as much as I did for him. For the first time, love wasn’t exhausting, it was exhilarating. I felt humbled to be his and grateful for all my past heartaches and disappointments, for it all lead me to him.  

Because of persistence, I slowed down and truly gave my body the time and attention it needed to heal, we tried again and became pregnant. And from that, came the most perfect, independent, happy and confident baby girl I’ve ever known… the little lady who completed our family…our rainbow baby…

Because of persistence, I took a leap of faith, and applied for a dream job, and got it…

So, I say to my daughter, persist baby girl, for persistence conquers all things…

May 17, 2019May 22, 2019 by jasdail23

Confessions of a Full-Time Working Mom

Me as my best self…

This is the boss lady I want to feel like everyday, all day. She is beaming with confidence, more organized than Marie Kondo, always on time (if not 5 mins early), and she’s a cool, calm and collected leader like Barack Obama back in 09! Lol! But most importantly, she’s a mother who knows how to leave work at work and how to be truly present when she’s home with her family (I’m talking personal and work phone off, emails on do not disturb!) … I love this woman!!! I obsess over her sometimes because all I really want is to be like her every day, all day!! Because in all reality, I only see glimpses, bits and pieces of her through out my work week…I’ve learned fairly quickly (and harshly) that it’s not easy to be like her…But, you know what? I still try! And I accept that despite trying my best, sometimes “my best” is missed deadlines, or running 5 minutes late for an important meeting, or leaving a desk full of work because I need to race across town to get a sick baby. I accept that sometimes, even after hours of work, “my best” is simply adding even more items to a never ending, ridiculously ambitious “To Do List.” Why? Because this is the real life of a working mother, or at least this is my version of it. I strive for my best self, but sometimes, I fall short…But still, I’ll continue to keep this image at the forefront of my mind, even if I can only be like her a few moments a day, or a few times a week. This wifemomboss will take that as a win and keep on pushing to do better! This is me as my best self, she is who I strive to be, she is my #goals ….

May 14, 2019May 17, 2019 by jasdail23